January 16th at 12:51pm a Good Decisioner on day 15 of her 30-Day No Sugar Challenge journey wanted to quit.
She had previously lost all the weight she wanted to lose, she experienced it: The energy, lightness of being, and the sheer joy of weightlessness. Until life had some major bumps and she plunged into the sugar to cope.
She said, “I'm so worn out from stopping and starting. I just don't have the willingness to do it on my own. I have not been able to manage without sugar so I don't believe it is right of me to continue.”
I knew right away that she needed some inner resources. She needed to know she had other things she could reach for instead of sugar, and I knew a hot bath and a good book just wouldn’t cut it.
It was then that I realized sugar was not the enemy she thought it was. Sugar had given her so much of what she needed at a very deep level.
Sugar is Not The Enemy
Sugar is beautiful. It comforts us, it can wrap itself around us and nurture us and sway with us back and forth, until the fire of emotion die down and all that is left is an empty wrapper and powerful emotions that have been spent. It is like a lover who caresses us, loves us, and leaves us spent. Too spent to think, to spent to feel, too spent to deal.
Unfortunately, some of the first sensations that return to us from such wonderful place are guilt and shame.
A Powerful Secret
We are not taught something very powerful in school; it is a secret many of our parents never knew. And the secret is this: When life get’s tough, it is calling us to become something greater than we are.
We are not taught that we have the ability to tap into our innermost being, that deepest part of us that knows, no matter what, without a doubt, everything will be ok. That nothing that life throws at us can ever really hurt us. That while this moment seems scary; who we are is bigger than any thing that could ever happen to us.
We are not taught that we have the ability to wrap the arms of our inner being around us, and rest in those arms. This is a beautiful place where we can cry, throw a fit of anger and scream at the world, or just feel our own inner love and reassurance.
Then, after our emotions are spent we can murmur our truths without blaring trumpets or super hero poses. We can murmur the once unspeakable truth that, “my worth is not determined by anything outside of myself” "I am worthy just because I am” and some of the first sensations that return from this wonderful place are inner peace and simple knowing, “I Got This."
Whether You Quit or Not, The Journey Will Continue
I told her, “You will continue on this journey whether you want to or not.” The illusion of giving up is just a temporary release for a weary soul who doesn’t know the inner resources she has available to her.
You can do this. Your inner warrior is calling you to do this and knows that once you overcome, you will have much to teach.
The Birth of "I Got This"
From the moment I laid down my pen I knew that we had given birth to the meaning of “I Got This” and what it will mean to the Good Decisions tribe moving forward.
The Meaning of "I Got This" Within the Good Decisions Tribe
When you say out loud, “I Got This” what you really mean is “I have tapped into my innermost being, that deepest part of me that knows, no matter what, without a doubt, everything will be ok. Who I am is bigger than anything that could ever happen to me.”
The Meaning of "You Got This" Within the Good Decisions Tribe
And when one Good Decisions member say's to another, "You Got This" what they are really saying is, tap into your innermost being, that deepest part of you that knows, no matter what, without a doubt, everything will be ok. Who you are is bigger than any thing that could ever happen to you.”
When we rely on our inner resources, our inner knowing, we can drop the need for outer resources, and sugar becomes something we enjoy every once in a while because we want to, not because we have to.